Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, be subject to your husbands as you are to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife just as Christ is the head of the church, the body of which he is the Savior. Just as the church is subject to Christ, so also wives ought to be, in everything, to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, in order to make her holy by cleansing her with the washing of water by the word, so as to present the church to himself in splendor, without a spot or wrinkle or anything of the kind—yes, so that she may be holy and without blemish. In the same way, husbands should love their wives as they do their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hates his own body, but he nourishes and tenderly cares for it, just as Christ does for the church, because we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a great mystery, and I am applying it to Christ and the church. Each of you, however, should love his wife as himself, and a wife should respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:21-33, NRSV)
I always cringe at this passage.
Wives be subject to your husbands…
So many people have been held in relationships where this sentence has been used to keep women locked in a sentence that was perpetuated by a “loving” relationship. But you see that is what we get when we proof text or look for what we want from the Bible without looking at all of the rest of it. (And yes we all do this.)
You see this one sentence says that women need to be subject to their husbands. But the whole passage says that both partners in the marriage have an equal part to play. That both must be willing to give. It is not a master-slave, or leader-follower or another other non-equal types of relationship. Both have duties to the relationship it is not one sided or a 50-50 relationship. It is 100%-100%.
Live in relation as God intended. No one over another, but all of us working together to live in the life God intended for all of us!